This morning the Lord pressed on me the question, “Am I really as patient as I may think?” I played over the morning in my head and had to admit I hadn’t been very patient with my kids. Then another question arose, how can I expect my kids to be patient if I’m not displaying it for them to see? How can I tell them to do something and act a certain way, when I’m not doing it? I think back to times that I’m short with my kids because I’m overwhelmed by something, but isn’t that why my 2 year old throws a fit too because she is overwhelmed and instead starts screaming and throwing a fit? What example am I if I don’t show her with my own life how to handle things the right way? I could talk til I’m blue in the face but this is another instances where actions speak much louder than words.
I watch my kids mimic conversations I have on the phone or phases that I use…just the other day one of my girls turned to her sister and didn’t like something she did and said, “I’ve told you over and over again not to do that. Go to your bed. I’ve told you over and over again and you are not listening to me.” While it was very funny (I did correct and tell her she is not allowed to talk to her sister that way ;)), it showed me how much they are listening and how everything I do and say is watched and then done. Even down to how I say “Oh gravy”, what do my girls say? You got it “Oh gravy” (which is super cute! :))!
The quiet nudges in my heart this morning from the Lord made me realize how I have not been being patient with a joyful attitude and that my patience’s with my precious little ones wasn’t were it needs to be. It’s an area now that I see even more I need to work on, again not only for myself but for my kids to see. In order to be the woman after God’s own heart, patience’s is a big attribute I need to display. I thought about these verses as I thought about what the Bible says about it,
“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.” James 1:3-5
“Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness.” Col. 1:22
“But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.” 1 Tim. 6:11
Again not only is patience’s an action but its an attitude. It’s something that you do with joy! When I’m in the middle of doing something and all 3 of my kids are crying and asking me questions, with JOY and PATIENCES I’m to handle the situation instead of my natural responds. When my daughter is having a bad attitude and then starts throwing a huge temper tantrum, I need to respond to her with JOY and PATIENCES. I could give example after example but I’m sure in your own mind you’ve already thought of ones that relate to you.
This quote sums it up for me…Let’s remember that we won’t always have our children with us and what memories do we want to leave them with.