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Our Calling Is People Oriented

February 25, 2015



“…The world has a very muddled perception of “self”. The think and tell us to think that we are all little separate entities who might need to go off somewhere to get to know “ourselves”, or that a mother needs to get back to her corporate job to be herself again. Marriages break up because people don’t know  who they are anymore. They need to find themselves.

But the Christian view of self is very different. and you need to make sure that it is the one you have. We are like characters in a story. Our essential self is not back in the intro, waiting to be rediscovered. Who you are is where you are. When you are married, your essential self is married. As the story grows, so does your character. Your children change you into a different person. if you suddenly panic because it all happened so fast and now you don’t recognize yourself, what you need is not time alone. What you need is your people. Look out-look at the people who made you what you are-your husband and your children…if you want to know yourself, concentrate on them.

Those women who try to find themselves by stripping away the “others” will find that they are a very broken thing. This will lead them to resent the people who they think made them that way. She may say, “I used to be so energetic, but all these people take, take, take from me and now I have no time to just be me!” And the world gathers around and comforts her and says she needs some time to follow her dreams.

But the Christian woman needs to see, “I used to be so boring! Now my character has some depth, some people to love, some hardships to bear. Now I have some materials to work with.”  A Christian’s woman view is always forward and never back….As married Christian women, our identity is in our husbands. We are their helpmeets. Our calling is people-oriented. It follows that you cannot know what your calling is until you know who your calling is. Until you are married, you are not tied to a specific person.  Marriage reorients you entirely. Children do even more. Then it is your calling to help your husband by raising these little people. People, people everywhere and no time for yourself. But remember that this your calling. It belongs to you. They belong to you.

If you want some quality “Me time”, make a date with your husband. Do something special with your children. These people are you. Your identiy is suppose to be intertwined-that is the way God wrote the story, and it is the way He intends us to read it.”

-Rachel Jankovic, “Loving the Little Years”


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